A friend forwarded this to me today. It’s amazing how much of it I can identify with. It’s frightening on many levels that I recognize my own behaviors here. I have been having many revelations over the last year or so about my contributions to the abusive patterns in our relationship. This is eloquently written… the difference between my revelations and this article is that I still believe that if I can just fix myself, I can change the pattern. I would like to think that I don’t believe this, that I’m beyond that hope, but I can’t. Because I’m not. I wonder if I ever will be. I wonder if I’ll ever be able to accept that some things, some people, are not capable of change.